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Jan. 12th, 2008 | 11:01 am
posted by: justsurvive in dec2006_babies

 Leila and i have been to the clinic 3 times in the last 2 weeks. shes had an ear infection, an upper respitory, a cold, and an unknown rash. shes been on ammoxxicillian and an antibiotiotic for the cold. She has a cough and sneezes and sniffles. 

next week im supposed to check in for a week long seizure study in the hospital. Its a 24/7, hooked up to wires, tv monitored study.  She cant stay with me. Im a single mom and leila will only be able to visit me for short periods of times during the week. 

Shes supposed to go stay with my cousin who has a two or 3 yr old and a 4yr old.  and then a family from my church. 

Should i cancel or postpone the study? its a cough and just a cold but i dont want to bother my cousin and her young family . i dont want to be one of those moms. this is the first times ive ever been away from here. ever. ive only been away for maybe 4 hrs at a time. and noiw it may be 7days :/ i dont know how ill deal. we cosleep and breastfeed. and she has her kids on strict 7pm-7am sort of schedules too. i really dont know how this all will work.
im just realy really anxious

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jmama.

From: endless_crazy
Date: Jan. 13th, 2008 12:56 am (UTC)
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I think it's pretty normal to be anxious. Even if Leila wasn't sick, and you weren't going to have to leave her - being a single mom, I think like all single mom's should have "Anxious" just tacked on to their name like a title or something. It comes with the territory.

I know what you mean about not wanting to be "one of those mom's". I've felt that way a lot with my daughter and the only time I leave her is when I have to go to work - and still I feel guilty. It is a normal feeling I think, but sometimes you have to put it aside and do what you have to do. I would go absolutely crazy if I had to leave my daughter for a whole week, but if it was for my health I would do it. Because you have to take care of yourself in order to take care of her, you know what I mean?

About your daughter being sick and leaving her with relatives/friends, I've been there too. I would say to call your doctor, ask him/her about whether or not she is contagious, and then inform whoever will be taking care of your daughter whether or not she's contagious. But the fact is kids get sick, kids get each other sick - I mean being sick with colds and all those other kid things, that has to add up to live 20% of the experience of being a kid, hah.

And leaving her for a week when you guys are so close, it will obviously be difficult. The first time I left my daughter with her dad (and it was only for three days) I pretty much bawled my eyes out the entire time. And I'm not going to lie, when I'm not with her, it still hurts, doesn't feel right. But that comes with the territory too, when you love somebody that much, you're going to miss them when they're not with you.

I'm not sure if any of this helped, I kind of just rambled. But I saw your post and I had to say something. I hope everything works out for you.

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Tara

From: prettylilditty
Date: Jan. 13th, 2008 07:51 am (UTC)
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I really think it would depend how urgent this study to be done is.

My biggest concern is the disruption in your breastfeeding. If the study can wait, I'd postpone. If it can't then you nned to see what options you have as far as pumping and still being able to supply baby with your milk. I think at this time being away from you so long, having your milk to taste(and leave a sweater of yours with her so she can smell you) will be a huge comfort to her.

I really feel for you. We too, are a breastfeeding, co-sleeping family. But if its a necessity to your health, you have to find a way to make it work. And you can! There are many ways you can make the transition easier on both of you.

But as I said...if its ABLE to be postponed, I'd do it. Best of luck, and let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

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justsurvive

From: justsurvive
Date: Jan. 13th, 2008 08:01 am (UTC)
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it is a big hospital. theres is a lactation staff, and they are letting me use a hospital grade pump the whole time i am there. i will pump every 2hrs. I am bringing mothers milk tea, and lots of other supplements as well as soothies and lanolin as i rememember what the months of pumping in the NICU did to me. Shes used to her sippy cup and her goats milk, and after im able to pump a bit i'll be able to send her home with some milk to drink. ill breastfeed when she visits.

i am disabled because of the seizures. applying for disability because of them. It is postponable, yet it does affect the quality of our lives.

i worry that it will affect our relationship. that it will have her wean. i wanted her to choose to wean.

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Tara

From: prettylilditty
Date: Jan. 13th, 2008 08:09 am (UTC)
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Hey, slow down Momma. This doesnt mean she will wean. You can make this work, you can still nurse and you can be successful! I know a Mom who is overseas who pumps exclusively for her babe and mails it back to the states. You will only be away for a week. And she will be nursing when she's with you. This is NOT the beginning of the end. Dont look at it that way. Be optimistic, be proactive (sounds like you have that covered) and be persistent! This WILL work! Ask around in one of the breastfeeding communities. I'm sure many Moms will have some good tips to keep things going well for the two of you. Hang in there Momma!

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justsurvive

From: justsurvive
Date: Jan. 13th, 2008 10:33 pm (UTC)
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uh yep. never said that it was the end. and i do have it covered. if all the pumping and aids dont help, my nicu experiance and lactation staff on hand will.

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